Monday, June 18, 2012

Being Nice and Being Close

Being nice and being close to someone, is there any difference between these two? Bunyi macam sama je kan. It is easier for a person to be nice to everybody, but not everybody can be close to a person.  That is why we have to know the difference between being nice and being close. This is important for doctors especially because professionalism comes first before any emotional feeling, but that doesn’t mean we can treat our patients like a mannequins. 

Being nice is superficial, there is no emotional attachment involves. Everybody can be nice to other person, for example holding the door open for a person behind you, give up your seat to a pregnant woman, a warm smile to your customers, treat people for lunch or dinner, helping a friend, greet your friends and ask them “dah makan ke?” “buat apa semalam?” “banyak nyamukkan sekarang?”, etc. 

Being close to someone involves emotional attachment, kalau tak banyak pun, sikit tetap ada. Being close is a step further than being nice. You genuinely are interested to know about that person, about his/her problem. When she cries, you will cry, when she’s happy, you‘re going to feel happy for her too. 


Being close is a voluntarily decision. Being nice is not always a voluntarily decision, because for some people it is just a culture. Depan-depan cakap manis je, belakang-belakang macam-macam benda duk mengata. I’m not comparing these two values telling which one is better, both are equally important in our daily life. For me, being nice is like showing our sympathy, while being close is more like empathy. 

As an individual we have to know where to draw the line. Some people, they can easily get too attached to someone they hardly know. Then there are others, who are very strict about professional etiquette, avoiding any emotional attachment and ends up becoming a cold-hearted, uncaring person. 

Khairul

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